Marrying somebody can be nerve-wracking. You’re saying goodbye to your life of freedom and independence and hello to something entirely new and unknown. If you haven’t been cohabiting, you must now live with somebody else. And you have to deal with all of the interpersonal complexity that brings. It’s not easy.
Fortunately, there are many practical ways that you can deal with the pre-wedding jitters and get yourself in the right frame of mind for the big day. Remember, once you commit, there’s no turning back.
Create A Self-Care Routine
In the weeks and days running up to the wedding, you can find yourself losing sleep and not eating as much as before (or munching more as the case may be). Combined with the stress of work, this type of behavior can eventually take its toll on your health.
If you’re struggling with this, try to create a self-care routine. Be sure that you take time every day to prepare yourself proper meals and get regular exercise.
If you’re somebody who likes to browse social media before going to sleep, do something else. Avoid mindlessly scrolling through your feed before you go to sleep. Instead, take fifteen minutes where you read a book or listen to some music – whatever gets you ready for bed.
You can also try managing your small tasks better. Don’t allow things to pile up. Instead, create a list of odd jobs that you have to do and work through them methodically before they start causing you stress.
Speak With Your Wedding Photographer
When it comes to your big day, you want everything to go perfectly. After all, you only have one shot at this, so if any part of the system breaks down, there’s no going back.
Some people can calm their nerves a little by speaking with the vendors about their plans for the day. Often, just striking up a conversation with your wedding photographer can make a big difference in how you feel. Their soothing words remind you of their experience – and that can help you relax and stop worrying that things will go wrong.
Try Grounding Yourself With Mindfulness
Going into a marriage is a big deal, and you may find yourself worrying about what might go wrong. After all, you can’t easily go back on your commitment once you sign all the paperwork and say, “I do.”
Grounding yourself with mindfulness, therefore, can help. Research shows that simple meditation can reduce insomnia by up to 60 percent and instantly help you feel more relaxed. With it, you can achieve a sense of control of your life.
Accept How You Feel
Sometimes, we work as hard as we can to avoid accepting how we feel about getting married. We like the idea in principle, but then it somehow doesn’t feel right when it actually comes down to it.
Ideally, you need to listen to these voices in your head and accept them. You want to be able to non-judgmentally address your emotions and find out where they are coming from.
Sometimes, you’ll be able to identify triggers – specific events that lead you to feel a certain way. Perhaps it’s something to do with your past or an ex that has you nervous. Other times, your emotions may be telling you to reconsider the entire event. Failing to listen to your gut can land you in a lot of trouble years down the road.
Protect Yourself From Stress
Getting married can cause you to feel quite frazzled, especially when you consider all of the organization it requires. So it makes sense to do what you can to protect yourself against stress. After all, the last thing you want is to be in fight or flight mode on your big day.
Your body can react strongly to stressful situations around the time of a wedding. You may worry about entertaining all the guests or one side of the family fighting with the other.
If possible, you want to create positive energy before the big day. Try to get everyone on the same page. Your wedding is about celebrating the union of you and your partner. Even if people don’t get along, try laying ground rules. And if they’re not prepared to follow them, strike them off the invitation list.
If you’re prone to stress, you can also change your attitude towards it. As Greek philosophers pointed out, life is a continual process of flux. You never know how things will develop from one moment to another, so you may as well accept change.